Always the baker. . . .never the bride!

So I tweeted earlier in the week I was working on a blog entry, I honestly still am, I just haven’t had the patience’s to sit down and finish it. But wouldn’t you know it, here I am reading a book (trying to get as close as I can to my goodreads goal of reading 100 books in 2012! Which dopey me fell behind and now I don’t think I’m going to fully reach it) when a page in the book brought up 5 questions that I honestly think are perfect for answering on my blog and to be honest, for the people that read my blog, I’d love to hear your responses as well, married, engaged, dating or even single! It’s from a great book I’m currently reading called “Always the Baker: Never the Bride” written by Sandra D Bricker. The questions are actually under the title The Five Most Important Questions To Ask Yourself When Composing Your Wedding Vows. But to me, this seems like something you should be able to answer and take into consideration before you even accept that ring!

When you were a kid, what did you imagine about your future spouse?
It’s funny because just last night Anthony and I were discussing the steps to getting married, the things we want to accomplish before we make that commitment and so on. One of the things that were brought up was the things I imagined as a child about my future husband. Now let’s not get me wrong here, I am a complete old fashioned person, I believe in sex before marriage ( if it’s the right person ), I believe in living together, I even believe in a child out of wedlock if you truly love someone, but when it comes to proposing, I am old fashioned, I have always dream that the man I marry actually asks my father for my hand in marriage. I know that’s something that was done years and years ago, but to me this is important. My father is one of the people I trust with my life and helping me to make my decisions, so if my father says yes to him than I’ll know it’s the right decision without a doubt in my mind. My father although at times makes some of the silliest jokes or acts like a total kid, he has a head on his shoulders when it comes to making decisions so I would trust his judgment. Looks wise, I never actually imagined that, because to me, I don’t care what skin color, hair color, eye color or size you are. If I was meant to fall in love with you, I’ll fall in love with you no matter what. But in regards to his personality, I’ve always pictured myself with a goofball, but not someone that can’t be serious. I want someone that at my lowest of times can be there to pick me up and at my highest of times is there to ride it out with me too. I want someone with a head on his shoulders, that has a job that’s going to make him successful, hell he could have started off as a cashier at any type of store and turned him into something bigger. But the most important thing about the “future spouse” that I’ve always imagined as a child was someone that would love me, despite my many flaws! And in all honesty, as corny as it’s going to sound, I have found all of these attributes in Anthony. He’s an amazing man who I have been lucky enough to fall in love with!

What does marriage actually mean to you now?
Marriage to me now still means what it’s always meant to me. My meaning of marriage is true love and commitment between two people that have found their matching souls in someone else. As well as finding that one person you could never live without, even when times are at their hardest. And I’m sorry, there may be some anti-gay people that will stumble upon my blog and not agree with me, but to me that doesn’t mean it’s a man and a woman only, to me marriage is a commitment between two people, even the same sex if that’s where you find your true happiness. Love knows no height, weight, race or gender.. .. .marriage shouldn’t be defined by it either!

What are the three best things about the person you’re about to marry?
The three best things about the man I’m going to marry one day would defiantly have to be his sense of humor, his dedication and his love. By his dedication and his love, I don’t only mean towards me, he might kill me for saying it on the internet (lord knows the saying once it’s on the internet you can’t ever take it back) but he is such a truly dedicated man to the people he truly loves and cares for. He has a heart of gold, he’ll go out of his way to make sure you’re happy, and if you’re not happy, he’ll do everything in his power to be at your side every step of the way.

What is your favorite memory of your fiancé?
Well he’s not my fiancé yet, somewhere down the line he’ll become that. But my favorite memory of him would defiantly have to be the very first time we ever met. I will never forget the whole drive to meet him, I was so nervous. I kept telling my best friend that I was going to back out, I couldn’t do it, I was too nervous, but I kept driving. It was the best decision I ever made because the moment we met, the moment I laid eyes on him, the moment he got into my car I just knew he was the one. It felt like we hadn’t just met for the first time, I was instantly so comfortable with him. He put all my worries to rest the moment he said hi. It’s a memory I will never forget because it was the moment I knew that he was it for me.

What do you see when you look down the road of your marriage?
When I look down the road of marriage, I see a happy couple, raising children and growing old together. But most of all, I see hope. I see hope at the end of it all that things will turn out however god has them planned for us. We haven’t had the perfect relationship, and I know that down the line things are going to get rocky, sometimes maybe even worse than rocky, but we love one another and we will get through it together. With him at my side, I see a future, I see happiness and most of all I see a happy marriage filled with love. I can only hope that my marriage is like my parent’s marriage, when I look at the road of marriage I am hoping to follow the same path as them. High school sweethearts married 31 years and still as much in-love as ever! They’ve been an amazing example.. . ..

So now that I've finished answering these questions, I'd love to read this in someone else's blog! If you fill it out, comment and let me know!